Charming people fare better in life. But what is charm? Is it that little "je ne sais quois" or is it something physical? Can anyone learn to be charming? The answer is "yes" to all of the above. Here are five steps to learn how to be charming.1, Dress impeccably. In Working Girl, starring Melanie Griffith, when Tess first meets Katherine, her new boss, Katherine explains the importance of dressing right by quoting Coco Chanel and saying: "Dress shabbily, they notice the dress. Dress impeccably, they notice the woman." Dressing impeccably doesn't mean expensive t means simple and elegant. At the very least, you should have one black dress, one strand of pearls, and one set of pearl earrings. The pearls don't need to be real, but they shouldn't look like obvious fakes. If real pearls are out of your price range, then find the most real looking imitation pearls that you can afford. A string of pearls can class up any outfit and pearl stud earrings can take you from daytime into nighttime. Strive to make your appearance neat and clean looking. Even if you're going to wear khaki pants and a button down shirt make sure that both shirt and pants are ironed to get rid of wrinkles and then wear your pearls to class them up.
2. Practice your poise. When you were a little girl, did you ever try walking with a book on your head? Walking with a book on your head is actually good practice to learn poise. Stand in front of a mirror and put a book on your head and then watch your reflection on how you have to hold your head to keep the book from sliding off. Step a distance back from the mirror so that you can walk towards it with the book on your head. One thing you should notice right away is how it makes your steps more graceful. Holding your head up makes you appear to have confidence and a woman with confidence is completely charming.
3. Smile when appropriate. People are more attracted to and charmed by people who smile. But don't just smile to smile. Smile only when it's appropriate such as when greeting or saying goodbye to someone, when listening to a humorous story or joke, or to mark agreement. Smiling when
appropriate lets people know your smile is genuine and not just an affect. A genuine smile is charming.
4. Be outgoing but keep your personal life to yourself. Be outgoing without being pushy. Being outgoing means not being afraid to go up to someone, speak to that person and introduce yourself. But being outgoing doesn't mean dominating the conversation. Get the people you're with to talk about themselves and let them know they have your interest. When people feel that you take an interest in what they say, they'll feel better about themselves, which, in turn, makes them feel better about you. Plus, listening to other people talk allows you to keep an air of mystery. Maintain that air of mystery by keeping your personal problems to yourself. If you do share personal facts about yourself, make them general personal facts and not the kind of personal facts that only those closest to you should know.
5. Be kind. Some of the most charming people are the kindest people. Being kind, even to those that have earned your disdain, will set you apart from the rest. If you never say anything bad to anyone about anyone then people will feel more comfortable around you since they won't feel like you're going to say mean things about them when they're not around. People that are cruel or say mean things have self esteem issues. People that are kind are confident and charming.
